7 More Lessons from My 1st Year of Marriage

A. Healthy sacrifice is always a good idea. If being a people person was ranked on a scale of 1-100%, I will rank 20%. I am introverted and this plays out in diverse ways but the most common indicator is I can go a really long stretch of time without socializing with people. I love my…

On Having Kids

“A therapist said if you self isolate when overwhelmed, you probably had to solve a lot of your problems alone as a child.” ~ Bri Hall (Twitter) Many adults I know arrived at adulthood with nothing. We literally had to raise ourselves, break free from the trauma of being raised by parents who were also…

On Marital Idolatry

I saw a post by theindemandva recently that highlighted the theme of celebrating others not necessarily because they have accomplished things society has conditioned us to applaud. ”Normalize celebrating other things other than marriages and babies. Some of us are: paying off debt, starting businesses, moving out of our home towns to big cities, mending…

Life Lessons from a Lesbian and Her Queer Friends

I was on a lesbian’s social media page this morning. Jumoke Randle’s biological sister called out her ex for abusing her while they were in a relationship, making videos based on that abusive relationship and painting her in a bad light while narrating her version of events. This call-out led to a social media uproar….

8 Lessons From My 1st Year of Marriage

BO and I recently had a conversation on the things we learned in our first year of marriage. These 8 lessons (in no specific order) stood out for us: Marriage is not the use of another human being. Marriage is two whole people coming together for the furtherance of a God mission. It is possible…

On Resentment

Resenting God because it looks like everyone else but you is living in the reality of their prayers will not make God’s time come faster in your life. What resentment does on the long run is it blurs your perspective. It makes you believe a lie. Chances are, you might have ingested a definition of…

People Lessons in 2021

3 People Lessons God Taught Me in 2021: i. Opinion Management Opinion Management means I have the capacity to control my perception and response to issues that directly concern me, issues that indirectly concern me and issues that do not concern me. Weighing in on every issue tabled before me is not a good use…

Don’t Stray

I have had a particular iPhone for about 3 years now and I am reluctant to give it out even after getting a new one recently. It holds so many memories that are dear to my heart. Today for instance, I looked through some pictures from about 5 years ago. I was fixated on four…

Nuance

 There are some places you shouldn’t feel at home even though you have been told to. You are not accepted there, and your host will not say it. To come out plainly to say we don’t want you in our home is to breach social etiquette and to breach social etiquette is to let the…

What Meagan Good Taught Me About Christianity

Meagan Good will not make a poster image for Christianity in some circles. Why? The outward expression of her Christianity doesn’t fall within the balance of spirituality that a lot of Christians are accustomed to because to be Christian is to be a certain way and this being is reflective in how we look and…

Choices

I currently live in a regimented environment, and with environments of this nature comes rules and templates of ‘doing‘ and ‘being‘. There is an unvoiced and voiced modifying of behavior everyone in this environment has to undergo. Your behavior has to align to the code of conduct. I have broken the rules more times than…