Finding Me

I saw ‘Oprah + Viola, A Netflix Special Event’ the other day and watching Viola Davis share her journey to personal significance was deeply moving.  Opening up about the crippling poverty she was born into, her experience with sexual violence, watching her father beat her mom, struggling with bed wetting till she turned 14, constantly…

You Deserve Kindness

My life these days look like a curation of the finest moments from a travel & lifestyle magazine.  On some days, it is surreal. On other days, it is real and then on some other days, I go through both motions.  It is a great place to be. To watch yourself live in the reality…

Nuance

 There are some places you shouldn’t feel at home even though you have been told to. You are not accepted there, and your host will not say it. To come out plainly to say we don’t want you in our home is to breach social etiquette and to breach social etiquette is to let the…

Choices

I currently live in a regimented environment, and with environments of this nature comes rules and templates of ‘doing‘ and ‘being‘. There is an unvoiced and voiced modifying of behavior everyone in this environment has to undergo. Your behavior has to align to the code of conduct. I have broken the rules more times than…

7 More Lessons from My 1st Year of Marriage

A. Healthy sacrifice is always a good idea. If being a people person was ranked on a scale of 1-100%, I will rank 20%. I am introverted and this plays out in diverse ways but the most common indicator is I can go a really long stretch of time without socializing. I love my intimate community…

On Having Kids

“A therapist said if you self isolate when overwhelmed, you probably had to solve a lot of your problems alone as a child.” ~ Bri Hall (Twitter) Many adults I know arrived at adulthood with nothing. We literally had to raise ourselves, break free from the trauma of being raised by parents who were also…