Opinions

You are entitled to rights. You have a right to think. You have a right to come into your own and own your thoughts. You have a right to have opinions. You have a right to choose to air your opinions. You do not┬áhave a right to give your opinions when it is not solicited….

Nuance

 There are some places you shouldn’t feel at home even though you have been told to. You are not accepted there, and your host will not say it. To come out plainly to say we don’t want you in our home is to breach social etiquette and to breach social etiquette is to let the…

Choices

I currently live in a regimented environment, and with environments of this nature comes rules and templates of ‘doing‘ and ‘being‘. There is an unvoiced and voiced modifying of behavior everyone in this environment has to undergo. Your behavior has to align to the code of conduct. I have broken the rules more times than…

Seasons

When you understand your season and you are at peace with it, what others think about the sacrifices you have to make in that season becomes irrelevant.

Social Media Hacks and Etiquettes for Millennials

Use the same profile picture and bio across all your platforms. It validates the credibility of your digital presence. Do not use a raunchy picture as a profile picture. Similarly, ensure there is an offline consistence with your online profile summary. Your bio should describe who you are and not who you were. We all evolve,…

I Finally Met Chimamanda and Here is What I Learnt

If you are an ardent reader of my blog, then you most likely know that I love Chimamanda. I am thoroughly smitten by the quality of her femininity. I met Chimamanda the other day and guys it was surreal. The meeting which was a night of conversations bordering on Feminism, Femininity and generally issues that affect…

You Listened To Her, Now You Are Screwed

In recent times, I have had cause to leaf through the pages of my old journals. Expectedly, this process sends me into deep thinking mode. The scribbles in those journals represents a lot. For the sake of this post though, I will be making a temporary call on ‘aborted pursuits’ because I listened to ‘her’….

Are you A Wannabe?

I recently peeked into the decision making process of an influencer, the exposure I got was so profound, it triggered a lot of thoughts. They were exclusive musings, but I knew I had to write about it here. If you are passionate about authenticity, you should be able to relate with where I am drawing my perspectives from. Who is a Wannabe?…

What ‘Living’ in the Hospital Has Taught Me About Life

I am writing this from a tiny cubicle in the ward of a hospital. From here, I can hear the shrills of a woman in a labor, the weary face of a nurse who is overworked and underpaid, I see relatives sleeping with their loved ones muttering prayers of healing under their breath, staring at…

Millenials, Our Parents Are Using Us To Fight Their Battles

Our parents get into battles they cannot finish and then enlist us to complete it for them. So at 50,  it is no longer about being married to the best man, driving the classiest cars and living in the choicest, areas. It is now, “My daughter is doing better than yours, I told you.” “My…

Limbo

Dear Diary: January 31st, 2018. Room Alone, Kano State, Nigeria. There is a name for a feeling that isn’t sadness or joy or indifference. You are just placid, you are unmoved about things that matter, your passion is depleted, your energy level is beyond red, and I am tired is now an anthem. Your zeal…

Wholeness

When the woman is whole, self love becomes a lifestyle.