Before you proceed on your marital journey, have regular conversations with your partner on expectations. Harmonize your expectations of what marriage is, what marriage should be and what your marriage will be.
Harmonize your expectations of who a husband, father and lover should be with your partner.
Harmonize your expectations of who a wife, mother and lover should be with your partner.
Settle the foundation upon which your marriage should be built on and then harmonize definition of marriage goals with your partner.
Society has said a lot about what marriage should be and how it should run, what are you saying about it? Harmonize that too.
Society has stipulated husband/wife roles and marriage faux pas. What are you going to decide to let into your home?
What will you both choose to define your marriage by?
A good chunk of the issues married folks have in marriage are directly and sometimes indirectly related to these factors.