I am writing this from a tiny cubicle in the ward of a hospital. From here, I can hear the shrills of a woman in a labor, the weary face of a nurse who is overworked and underpaid, I see relatives sleeping with their loved ones muttering prayers of healing under their breath, staring at time wishing it would go by fast so they can be out of here in no time.
My life in the past weeks has been a flurry of activities. Between working two jobs, running a business, pillaring my parents, babying my siblings, watching people die, watching relatives grieve, shouting the hospital down on a nurse who touched my madness where I kept it, I have learnt quite a lot. I have had internal monologues about life, death, life after death, friendship, marriage, relationship, vanity, death again and then wealth.
The lessons from this period, I summarize in 10 points:
A. Wealth is not about having money. It is about having people who can raise help for you in critical situations based on the strength of your integrity. Subomi Plumptre taught me this, life reiterated it to me.
B. Nothing knocks clarity and definition into you than watching your loved one hang in there at the mercy of a care provider who has seen way too many deaths to really really care.
C. When you ‘live’ in an hospital, you will learn to define things differently. The help you think you need and the help you really need are two different things. E.g The help you need at times is an efficient rude care giver instead of an unskilled but highly effusive care giver.
D. You cannot tell where help will come from. I have learnt that help in critical situations comes from unlikely places and people. The people you think will be there will fail you and guess what, you will have to forgive.
E. Wealth and money are two different things. I have stated it before but it bears reiteration.
F. Money is a defense. I have watched funny money scenarios and the bullshit you have to stomach just because…My prayer in recent times has been: Lord, I need financial acumen not just to multiply money but to create wealth.
G. Take care of your health.
H. Let people go.
I. Death is real.
J. Watching people die teaches what is important and what is not. The things you think matter does not. Top on that list is the opinions of people and trying to live life based on people induced timelines & bench marks.