I saw a post by theindemandva recently that highlighted the theme of celebrating others not necessarily because they have accomplished things society has conditioned us to applaud.
”Normalize celebrating other things other than marriages and babies. Some of us are: paying off debt, starting businesses, moving out of our home towns to big cities, mending friendships, leaving toxic relationships, going into therapy and so much more. Those are accomplishments too.”
I found her thoughts very powerful.
Building on what she said, I strongly believe we need to normalize not pitying unmarried women especially those in their late 20s or 30s. There is nothing about being unmarried at a certain age (especially if the said person is unmarried by choice) that is pitiable.
They don’t need pity neither do they need advice on how to look desirable or ‘marriageable.’
Not everyone desires marriage and that is fine.
Unsolicited marital prayer is another thing we need to stop. There are other prayers we can pray for ‘single people’; it doesn’t have to be marriage every time.
Lastly, the mindset/stereotype that a woman in her 30s is unmarried because she has a bad attitude or is not “submissive” has to be thrown in the bin.
It is a retrogressive mindset and it is responsible for many women losing themselves, twisting themselves into shapes they are uncomfortable with, and in some cases marrying people they have no business getting together with.
Let’s lose marital idolatry in 2022.
Let’s let people be.
P.S The term ‘single people’ stresses me a lot because it is based on the assumption that you are not complete without marriage.
It is a cultural phenomenon that has been handed down from generation to generation. It is not biblically correct and in terms of critical reasoning, it ranks zero.
You are a full human being.
You do not need marriage to attain full humanity.
You are complete.
In addition to normalizing living our lives and letting others live their lives which really is the crux of everything above, this year, let’s question our beliefs.
Why do I believe this information?
Do I believe this because it is true?
Can this truth be verified?
Is this culture or scripture?
If it is culture, does it negate scripture?
Is it necessary to live out this belief even if it is cultural and doesn’t negate scripture?
Doing this regularly, — being mindful of your beliefs — elevates the quality of your thinking.