On Having Kids

“A therapist said if you self isolate when overwhelmed, you probably had to solve a lot of your problems alone as a child.” ~ Bri Hall (Twitter) Many adults I know arrived at adulthood with nothing. We literally had to raise ourselves, break free from the trauma of being raised by parents who were also…

On Marital Idolatry

I saw a post by theindemandva recently that highlighted the theme of celebrating others not necessarily because they have accomplished things society has conditioned us to applaud. ”Normalize celebrating other things other than marriages and babies. Some of us are: paying off debt, starting businesses, moving out of our home towns to big cities, mending…

Life Lessons from a Lesbian and Her Queer Friends

I was on a lesbian’s social media page this morning. Jumoke Randle’s biological sister called out her ex for abusing her while they were in a relationship, making videos based on that abusive relationship and painting her in a bad light while narrating her version of events. This call-out led to a social media uproar….

8 Lessons From My 1st Year of Marriage

BO and I recently had a conversation on the things we learned in our first year of marriage. These 8 lessons (in no specific order) stood out for us: Marriage is not the use of another human being. Marriage is two whole people coming together for the furtherance of a God mission. It is possible…