Decluterring

Once I find that I have to keep vouching for my intentions and explaining my actions over and over and over and over again, I know it is time to declutter. Once I have to rehearse our conversations and anticipate your responses in order to have my counter response ready before that soiree or slumber…

For When I Mess Up

Just in case I mess up, this is the kind of reality check I would expect from my bestie. The attention you want is unavailable so you seek succor elsewhere. Elsewhere is toxic and you know it but you are needy. The need for attention twisted your sense of dignity so you put your birth…

Friendships, Seasons and Discernment

I let go of a friend over a year ago. I knew the friendship had served it’s purpose and we both needed to move on. I knew early on that it was a seasonal friendship and so when it was time to move on, there was no fight or drama. It was an instant letting…

When I Meet Chimamanda

When I eventually meet Chimamanda, some six questions I could ask: 1. Greatest defining moment of your life? 2. Do your friends chose you or do you chose them and if you do, what factors (apart from being a lover of books) do you consider before asking for their hand in friendship? 3. If feminism…