Hang In There

Does it ever seem like the people around you can get away with certain things but if you were to try it, God would not allow you rest. You just cannot try it.. Those are seeds on the inside, bearing witness to your uniqueness. You are not ordinary. This uniqueness on your inside serves a…

Fortitude.

Going by observation, I have learnt that physical fortitude can only do so little. Many things in life need physical strength but most of the things you need to do to move your life progressively forward – (because there is a kind of progress that takes you back) do not need as much physicality. A lot…

Musings on Maritals.

Before you proceed on your marital journey, have regular conversations with your partner on expectations. Harmonize your expectations of what marriage is,  what marriage should be and what your marriage will be. Harmonize your expectations of who a husband, father and lover should be with your partner. Harmonize your expectations of who a wife, mother…

Growing up.

Maybe you should stop fidgeting and just own the fact that you are not like everyone one else. Your difference is not steeped in superiority towards others but with a sense of awe. You didn’t choose to be this way , you just are. Give yourself the psychological permission to be. Accept your difference, own…

Choices

I currently live in a regimented environment, and with environments of this nature comes rules and templates of ‘doing‘ and ‘being‘. There is an unvoiced and voiced modifying of behavior everyone in this environment has to undergo. Your behavior has to align to the code of conduct. I have broken the rules more times than…

Naivety.

We are most familiar with naivety as being ignorant of the evil intentions of people. That is a kind of naivety. When you are too exposed to what is wrong about life, you are ignorant of what is right, that is naivety. It is okay to guard the purity of your expectations. However, when you…

More on What I Learnt in my Twenty-Second Year.

Crowd mentality is rife in this part of the world and most go after the safety that comes with the familiar. Doing the unfamiliar and owning it rather brazenly is strange and quite a lot of people are uncomfortable with it. Mental toughness is key in towing the line of the ‘unpopular’ and ‘unconventional’. Putting my…

Exousia.

After surviving a two hour lecture riddled with curses about how my class is the worst set in the department and how we all are going to fail and never make it out of school with a first class;I drag my drained body to the bus stop hoping to get a cab to take me…