wisdom

You Listened To Her, Now You Are Screwed

In recent times, I have had cause to leaf through the pages of my old journals. Expectedly, this process sends me into deep thinking mode. The scribbles in those journals represents a lot. For the sake of this post though, I will be making a temporary call on ‘aborted pursuits’ because I listened to ‘her’….

I grew up in an environment that defined wisdom as being exposed to the impure motive of others. To be wise is to expect people to hate you, to weigh people’s words and find hidden meanings, to expect disloyalty and betrayal. We were praised for sniffing out things where there wasn’t, we were compensated with…

Humility

Be careful how you treat the authorities in your life when your life begins to look like what you dreamed of. Be careful how you treat your parents, mentors and teachers when you get to a point you tag ‘Spiritual/Economic/Social/Physical maturity’. Be careful how you treat their words, their counsel, their instructions. Remember they staked…

Nuance

There are some places you shouldn’t feel at home even though you have been told to. You are not accepted there, and your host will not say it. To come out plainly to say we don’t want you in our home is to breach social etiquette and to breach social etiquette is to let the…